Eat the Cake

Eat the cake.

As soon as a food is “off-limits” , it immediately becomes more appealing.

Think about it.  When you were younger and your parents told you that you could only have one piece of candy or one chewy Flintstones multivitamin….you wanted more. I distinctly remember sneaking into the kitchen with my siblings while my parents weren’t looking and enjoying a few more of those different colored Flintstones . Why? Because it was fun and against the rules.  To this day, we still laugh about it….and I’m pretty sure my mom only recently found out about it. [Sorry mom!]

So back to my point….as soon as you tell yourself or someone tells you can’t have something, you want it MORE. Food is no different. What if I told you that in “having good self-control with food”, it may really mean that food ends up controlling you. It doesn’t sound so fun does it?

I went through a phase where I wouldn’t eat certain foods or was pretty particular about when it was okay to eat them. Let me tell you, that only made me more neurotic about food.

Where as a kid, if there was cake or cookies available, I’d eat what I wanted and leave the rest. To many of us that scenario is now foreign. Why? Because the more food rules we try to follow, the more we lose our natural ability to know how much and what to eat.

What do you think happens when a kid who is always told to only have one piece of candy (if any) is then given the whole bowl when no one else is looking?

YUP. You guessed it. Empty bowl. …..and maybe a little GI distress. 🙂

So if you’ve ever wondered: How can you not eat the whole slice of cake? How can you just take a few bites of ice-cream and not finish the whole pint? How are you satisfied after just a few chips ?

Here’s how: It’s because that food is no longer off limits. It is no longer a big deal.

Now, there is A LOT more that goes into eating and nourishing your body appropriately that I’m super excited to delve into in future blog posts. There is no way that one post could possibly explain everything I’ve learned about food, nutrition, and our bodies. But for now, just know that everything in moderation (one of the most popular dietitian phrases) really does work.

The key is that YOU aren’t the one controlling the moderation, your body is.

There are no “good” or “bad” foods. There is just food and what you make of it.

Let me tell you, there is no greater feeling than enjoying a slice of cake to the point where you’re satisfied and 1) not feeling like you should eat a ton of it now because later it’ll be off limits again and/or 2) not having to think so much about the cake and how much or how little you should eat so that you’re able to focus on more important things…like the people and celebration around you.

So, eat the cake.

And all the other things you are self-restricting and avoiding.


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  1. Arianna Bermudez says:

    Hi! I have been thinking a lot about this lately, especially with the holidays. Today is an example of food controlling me. We had a potluck at work for Thanksgiving, and the whole time I kept thinking about how much I SHOULD NOT eat because I have another Thanksgiving tonight; and I will eat. Now I am hungry again, but I still feel like I did a bad thing by eating at the potluck (even though I know I did not do that poorly). What I am saying is, this has been happening a lot lately, and managing these feelings sometimes is taking a toll on me, to where I feel like I DO carry the extra weight because my mind is on it too much. When you try so hard at something, sometimes it backfires. I have a lot of days like that, and I remember the time when I was in great shape, I wasn’t overthinking it. How to get back there? I am not sure, but this is helpful to be aware of.

    1. Cheerfully Nourished says:

      Hii!! First of all, thank you so much for sharing ! A lot of people can definitely relate to this. Emotions and foods can be super connected…especially during the holidays.
      Also, good job on eating and enjoying the potluck. I’m glad you didn’t forego the experience of sharing a delicious meal and connecting with your coworkers for the sake of “saving a few calories”. Holidays are really all about connecting and being with others. The food is the delicious cherry on top 🙂

      I wonder if any of the feelings you’re having are actually not about the food. I think it’s super easy for us to automatically blame the food…mostly because it’s easier to be like “yup it’s the food…the food made me feel this way”. So there’s that. Just something for you to think about.

      Also, from what you’ve said, you got hungry again. Physical hunger is purely our body telling us it needs energy so from the sounds of it, your body handled both meals just fine 🙂


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